Get Quiet

GET QUIET

“Don’t borrow someone else’s plan. Develop your own philosophy and it will lead you to unique places.”
–Jim Rohn

What an amazing quote. There are no “correct” and “wrong” answers for life. Life is yours and you decide how you want to live it. The way of living your life, the things you do and you think and everything that happens in your head is different for everyone. Considering this, it wouldn’t be wise to borrow someone else’s plans and opinions and apply them to your life. You can take some advice from the people you admire and you look up to and adjust them to your perspective, which will lead later to “unique places”, to yourself. You can’t be your true and best self if you don’t listen to your “inner” voice.

WHY IS IT IMPORTANT TO LISTEN TO YOURSELF?

Because you can’t live a meaningful life, without doing things that bring you fulfillment, joy, happiness, gratitude, and pride for yourself and your values if you don’t listen to yourself. You must not let somebody else’s opinion dictate your life. It’s really important to follow what your “inner” self is telling you because in that way you mentally grow and you develop a strong and more disciplined mindset. For example, taking full responsibility for something that didn’t work out for you and not blaming someone or something else. You tried your best; it didn’t succeed, but at least it was your choice and yours only.

When you trust and you listen to your inner voice, you remain focused on your goal, without getting distracted, and you also honor your values. Let’s say for example, that you’ve borrowed money from a friend and it’s difficult to return it. Somebody could say, especially if your friend is wealthy enough, that he’s not going to miss it and everything’s fine. But because integrity is one of your values, you will try to give him back his money as soon as possible to honor your value.

REASONS YOU DON’T LISTEN TO YOURSELF

There are many reasons that you don’t do what you really want to do and you end up not living the life you want to live. To find these reasons (if you don’t already know them) you have to ask yourself the following questions:

• Do I value other points of view more than mine and why?

• How does that make me feel?

• Do I feel stressed, like I’m not in control of my life?

• Take a few minutes to check in with your body, how you feel and from where exactly is coming that feeling. Ask again:

• How do I feel when other’s opinions about me and my life are way different than mine? Does it bother me?

• Do I compare myself with others?

For instance, does it affect you negatively the fact that a friend of yours or someone you know might achieve massive success and you not? Do you criticize yourself based on that?

It’s bad for yourself to compare your life with someone else’s life. And I want you to tell me with honesty. Do you want the same thing for your life as your friend wants for his life? Do you both seek the same thing? Do you have the same goals? Do you have the same mindset? If the answer is no, then why do you even care? You’re dragging yourself down and you are sabotaging yourself when you think that you are not enough to achieve what others have achieved.

So, to get quiet in your head and not get affected by the circumstances so easily, you have to believe in yourself and listen to that voice that says you can DO IT and YOU ARE ENOUGH. You have to combine self-discipline with self-confidence to forge that strong mentality to listen to yourself.

And last but not least, in order to see a massive change in yourself, in the way you think and you react you have to change your social circle. You have to cut off anyone who is unhealthy to you because they only care about dragging you down. Start adding positive people to your circle who will support you, encourage you to go after your goals, and observe the difference in your mentality you will gain from them.

In closing, I would like to quote what Mark Victor Hansen has said: “Life is an inside-out game. The truth is that all our situations and circumstances have their beginnings in our minds. Our idea of who we are creates who we become – the great news is you can change your self-impressions and change your life.”